On Surrender

By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Marilyn_Fontaine]Marilyn Fontaine
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
by Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971)
I remember when my cousin and I were talking about life changes - the next day she had a house fire.
She had just qualified as a counsellor. It was a new beginning and everything was going ok; it was a new dawn then the fire started.
As a conscious student of life and metaphysics I realised that fire is cleansing, fire also burns away the old energy. It may not be the best conversation when you have experience a house fire which is devastating, but only after the shock and despair is gone that you can really look at this symbolically.
Fire is the element for creativity and energy in the Tarot spread (wands) and according to Denise Linn's book 'Signposts' fire is seen by the alchemists as an 'agent of transmutation' and as a 'symbolic purification'. However this post is not really about fire it is about Surrender.
When I surrender to the universe all things happen perfectly for me, even though I don't think so at the time even with my training. My ' old friend ' fear has a stonger voice topped with my need to control a picture perfect life. When I try to control my life it doesn't really turn out how I wish it to be. My life becomes magical when I let go and use divine intuitive guidance, which means to me a non judgemental positive attitude that is coming from the heart not from fear.
A magical life is not without pain, challenges or fires, breakups or breakdowns, but it is a soulful life where you became open, you learn how to manage the fear and work with it. Surrender is a courageous act especially when we have the belief that our constant input and focus will change the course of our lives. However the food to feed our dreams, hopes and desires really need the icing which is surrender.
So what are the tools that we need to surrender during challenging times? I have listed a few actions that will help such as:
We need to be kind to ourselves first and foremost and have self trust
We need to know that right now the present that matters and we cannot totally control the future but we need to let go of the outcome for the moment so that we can gain some clarity over the situation/challenge.
Questions such as what am I in control of right now? (the now is a very self reflective tool)
what I need right now to support myself is?
The truth I believe about this situation is?
After answering these questions we need to be able to turn the above over to the Creator/Goddess/Allah/Buddha/Spirit/Universe or what ever you believe in I don't just mean a religion I mean FAITH in something. That's why the 12 step programmes are so successful because the members turn the problem over to a higher power and get out of the way.
If surrender is too much work for you then I suggest you get the support of a professional surrender buster who may wear the title of Healer, Therapist, Body worker, good friend or Coach.
There is no weakness in surrender but an opportunity to stay present.
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